How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.
Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.
If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:
“You look so healthy!” is a great one.
Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”
“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”
Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.
Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.
Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.
Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.
Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.
Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.
Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.
Teach your daughter how to cook kale.
Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.
Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.
Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.
Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.
I went to church with my family tonight and the pastor said something that I think every Christian should hear
Pastor:Now, according to a few passages in the bible, homosexuality is a sin.
Couple of older males in the audience:Amen!
Pastor:Now, wait, I'm not finished.
Pastor:You know what else the bible defines as a sin? Divorce.
Pastor:There are countless passages that talk about how divorce is wrong, and that there are consequences to getting a divorce, such as the wife should be stoned.
Pastor:Yet, I witnessed a divorce just this morning. And I gotta tell you, it was heartbreaking, but I definitely didn't attempt to throw rocks at the wife, even though she was the one who filed for divorce.
Pastor:We choose to overlook the consequences of divorce because time has proven that they're inhumane and cruel.
Pastor:The bible doesn't say anything about the consequences of a homosexual lifestyle. Yet, we seem to be spearheading a campaign to ruin the lives of people we don't even know.
-the pastor shifts a few notes around-
Pastor:The bible states to love thy neighbor. That's it. There are no other rules or restrictions to that passage.
Pastor:So, we as a church family have to support equality with a smile on our face. THAT is the true Christian way.
“I don’t trust anyone who hasn’t been self-destructive in some way.
And who hasn’t gone through some sort of self-loathing? You’ve got to bang yourself around a bit to know yourself.”—Johnny Depp (via heartuntamed)
1.Who’s the last person you talked to about sex? 2.Have you ever sat in the back of a police car? 3.Are you stubborn? 4.If you took a drug test right now, would you pass? 5.Who was the last person to be on a bed with you? 6.Do you tend to hold a grudge? 7.Who is the last person that pissed you off? 8.Whats something that bothers you about girls? 9.What’s a fact about the last person that texted you? 10.Who sits in behind you in your math class? 11.Where is the biggest scar on your body? 12.Have you ever been told you were amazing? 13.Would you date someone who was addicted to drugs? 14.When was the last time you fought with your parents? 15.What was the last alcoholic beverage you drank? 16.What would your last name be if you married the last person you texted? 17.Do you care if people hate you for no reason? 18.Who was the last person to play with your hair? 19.Do you get along with girls? 20.Think of the last person who said I love you, do you think they meant it? 21.Who was the last person you kissed on the cheek? 22.Who are your last 4 txts from? 23.Who was the last girl you talked to? 24.Do you know anyone who drinks a lot? 25.Would you ever get plastic surgery? 26.Do you speak any other languages other than English? 27.What was the last lie you told your mother? 28.Have you ever had to call the cops on someone? 29.What was the last compliment you received? 30.Have you talked to a bitch today? 31.Are your parentsdivorced? 32.Have you had sex today? 33.Do you judge people you don’t know? 34.Are you a bad influence? 35.Is there anyone that’s in love with you right now? 36.Would you ever live with any of your best friends? 37.Are you photogenic? 38.Does anyone know a really deep and dark secret about you? 39.Do you use birth control pills? 40.When was the last time you went to a funeral? 41.Has one of your boyfriends best friends ever tried to get with you? 42.What do you receive the most compliments on? 43.Do you currently owe anyone money? 44.Would you ever marry anyone for their money? 45.Do you usually have a lot of drama in your life? 46.Who do you think is the most attractive actor? 47.How old is the last person you kissed on the lips? 48.Have you ever walked away from someone who was yelling at you? 49.Are you 100% over the last person you kissed? 50.What’s one thing you don’t like about yourself? 51.Have you told anyone that you missed them lately?